It’s been awhile since I last posted here…. OK, it’s been a LONG while. But, as the name of this site implies, I have had a lot of stuff going on that has kept me pretty busy and pushed this project to the back burner for a spell. But, I’m trying to get back into the swing of things.
It’s been a hectic six months, to say the least. I switched jobs at the end of September so I could work closer to home (13min commutes instead of an hour each way), make more (never hurts!), and focus on work that would challenge me more and help me focus on my strengths. While it’s gone quite well, it’s still been an adjustment.
We hit the holiday trifecta of Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas, and then decided to keep the excitement going with New Years, my birthday, Valentine’s Day, Crazy Two‘s birthday, Easter, Crazy One‘s birthday, and coming up on Crazy Three‘s birthday in about a month.
And, in the midst of all of that, we put a new roof on part of the house and are still finishing up a bathroom remodel. Mom, Interrupted and I have been really busy keeping things together and building things anew. It’s been nuts, it’s been exhausting, it’s been wonderful. But isn’t that pretty much par for the course when you have kids? The train never stops but it can be an exhilarating ride!
It’s easy to get burned out. We’re pretty done with holidays around our house after a half of a year of them every few weeks. We’ve been running like mad from one thing to the next and our legs are getting tired. It’s these times when you can easily find yourself losing your cool and being the kind of person you never wanted to be. This period of time can often involve more yelling, more tears, and more doubts about the kind of parent you really are. Am I being fair or too harsh because I’m stressed out? Am I doing everything I’m supposed to with them? Giving them enough attention? Or am I scarring them for life and leading them down the path of dysfunction? (Well, there’s no doubt about that last one!)
When you get to that point, when you realize that you haven’t been the person you hoped you would be, it’s time to slow down and refocus. And today was one of those days for me. In the midst of a very full schedule, when we all felt kind of ragged and lost, we hit the road. We needed a change in scenery, a change in tactics, a change ourselves.
We loaded up the car and headed out of town to see where the road would take us. We started out visiting an animal shelter to play with the animals. Then we drove our to where my wife used to live and stopped to feed some horses. We explored a park with a high bridge over a waterfall. And we hiked the trails and fed the trout at an environmental conservation center.
It was something very different from our normal routine and it was exactly what we all needed to reset ourselves and to reconnect with each other. It was fantastic seeing the kids out in nature. Big smiles and adventurous spirits abounded. It was magical. There’s something about fresh air, trees, the sound of water and wildlife, that forces all the other crap to slip away for awhile so we can see the kids as the amazing tiny humans they are and we can be the parents we always strive to be. (That is, until we get home and they forget how to get out of the car and go inside without a major 95% asleep breakdown.)